Why society won’t grow out of old habits

 Whether it’s in work, our hobbies, or our personal lives, we all want to develop healthy habits. The 21/90 rule is a well-liked habit-building strategy.

To maintain this is not too complicated. Make a 21-day commitment to a professional or personal objective to make it a habit. Once you’ve made it a habit, you keep doing it for an additional 90 days. It should then become a lasting lifestyle change.

The most common way it is said by experts to break a habit, is to replace the bad habit with a new “good” habit. It’s even harder to break century old habits because if most of society use it every day, how can it be wrong right? Whether as an excuse, unintendedly or intended exactly as it is there.

Lets take habits in the professional world. The saying goes “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know”. One thing that perplexis me about this, is why you would rather choose to employ someone you know, whether they can do the job or not. Or lets rather say, whether they tell you they can do the job. This can be work or personal friends and in some cases family. This makes space for people to get jobs because they know how to creep up someone’s ass and set examples for younger employees to do the same, because it works. I have personal experience with this, and every time this happened the director of the company ended up loosing money because he employed or promoted someone that was not fit to do the job properly.

Would you not say that you would rather employ someone that you don’t like but can do the job really well, then someone you like who will end up loosing you money? Now this sounds like a easy enough question to answer, but yet most people do the opposite and employ people they know and like. (I also know in some cases this works and the person can do the job well).

Then on the other hand you get people that only want to complain about the bad situation their in. Complain about their unhappy marriage, unforgiving job, uncaring friends and the list goes on. When you ask them why they don’t do something about it, it will become crystal clear very quickly that they don’t want to get out of the situation, it’s easier to just complain.

Lets take politics (Yes, yes I know. Stupid example but hear me out). This relates to South Africans. Everyone has a 2cents about where this country is heading to. If you live in South Africa, you know it’s going downhill in a snowball-effect kind of way. I haven’t heard one person say that they are happy with the current government, but I have heard multiple people say that they don’t see the point in voting because nothing changes. How do you expect change if you are not willing to help with the process?

Same thinh goes with a job. You will get someone that complains about their job at least once a day, but if you ask them if they’ve tried looking for something else. It will usually be a vague answer or you can tell by the way they answer that they’re not actively looking for something better.

Friends/ Partner / Boyfriend / Girlfriend: Your friend always tend to put herself/himself first and doesn’t really show any reciprocation when it comes to your feelings, actions etc. When asked why do you stay in this relationship, it normally starts with excuses defending the other person. This always gives me the question, are you really that unhappy then? or are you just complaining?

I will say this once and only once IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY IN A RELATIONSHIP / SITUATION YOU ARE IN, SPEAK UP OR LEAVE! It’s as easy as that, now some of you will think, yes that easy to say but not that easy to do. Well here’s some advise from Dr Seuss, sometimes the questions are complicated but the answers are simple. We like complicating it ourselves.